We all try to control things even though we know it doesn’t work and causes us a lot of stress.
It is a difficult thing to stop doing because we would like to be able to influence things outside of our control.
The first thing we need to do is make a decision to become aware of when and what we are trying to control.
We are unable to control any of the following:
Everything that has already happened
Other people’s opinion of us or reaction to us
What someone else does or thinks
The weather…….
We try and exert control things by…..
wanting things to be different
battling with our thoughts about things trying to make things what we want them to be.
The first step is realising that there is no point trying to control these things. It only causes us pain.
We can only control what we focus on and what we do.
We need to focus on something else or take some action and do something.
There is something else which we can do which really helps with the things that we can’t control and that is…..
Acceptance…….. but acceptance with a difference.