‘Should’

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‘Should’ and ‘ought to’ make us feel bad.

They are self-imposed rules we make for ourselves and others.

Shoulds for ourselves-


I should be more confident…
I should exercise more…

I shouldn’t have anxiety…
I shouldn’t make mistakes…

These shoulds make us feel guilty and frustrated.

Shoulds for others-


She should treat me better…
He should be grateful for what I’ve done for him..

These shoulds lead to anger and frustration.

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