This is a fantastic opportunity for you Milo. While Daisy is on her journey of self discovery, you can also go on your own journey, an internal, healing journey.
Are you ready to change how you view your relationship with Daisy and feel wonderful again Milo? In fact are you ready to change your whole life? Yes I am Soul. I am at my wits end. That is wonderful to hear Milo, because it will take commitment.
“I’ll tell you my story as I have experienced feelings very similar to yours. I’ll tell you about the journey I undertook and the lessons I learnt, which enabled me to change.
When I met my partner Bliss, who I always called ‘Blissy’, as it always felt much more affectionate, we were both much older than you and Daisy, but we were both still extremely young in spirit. We fell in love very quickly. Neither of us had felt this level of intensity of connection before. It was exhilarating, magical, captivating, enchanting, a totally transcendent experience. We were totally absorbed in each other spending all our time together, for quite a long time.
Then as we ventured out into the world again, seeing friends and doing things I started to feel this neediness, when were apart. I began to feel dependent on Blissy. I worried that the relationship may end and I kept needing to be reassured. I started to feel anxious.
I had found such an intense, ecstatic state of love over time overwhelming. I am extremely sensitive and my nervous system became exhausted. This exhausted nervous state created fertile ground for my worries and anxieties to grow.
At the same time Blissy was becoming more and more independent. This further reinforced my anxious, dependent state. We were still very much in love but my fears and doubts were affecting our relationship. I was slowly becoming worse, until we reached the point where we argued and parted from each other.
I felt completely distraught and desolate and I thought our relationship was over. Remember Milo, despite your fears, you still know Daisy is coming back to you!
I wanted to wallow in self-pity but I knew, I had to find the answers to change how I felt, if I was ever to rekindle our relationship at a later date. Blissy was so amazing and wonderful and I loved so much, that I wanted to improve myself and become better to be worthy of being with her.
So you’re probably wondering Milo why I got into the state. I had always been insecure throughout my life. I was very sensitive and prone to worry. Having said that, I always made the best of things and enjoyed my life despite my worries. When I met Blissy and fell in love, I was so unbelievably happy, that all these worries and anxieties disappeared.
Now really these anxieties and worries hadn’t disappeared they were just dormant because of our feelings of love for each other.
At the heart of feeling needy and dependent is your fear of losing your loved one, but underneath is your insecurity, your anxieties and not feeling good enough.
So Milo, were you insecure before meeting Daisy? I remember you telling me about a journey you made with Daisy, in which you both overcame your fears. Milo told Soul all about the ‘Over the Bridge’ journey. Soul was fascinated, hanging on Milo’s every word and also gaining a great insight into Milo and Daisy’s personalities.
When Milo had finished, Soul stated, “What a wonderful story. I understand so much more now. There is something I particularly want to share with you you but it’s late now, so I will tell you in the morning.
There’s a place close by, where you can stay,be comfortable and have a good sleep. We’ll meet back here in the morning so we can continue.
Milo repeatedly thanked Soul. He was so grateful that this wise old water vole was giving him his time and sharing his wisdom with him. Soul took Milo to where he could spend the night. Milo settled down, exhausted but with the seeds of hope stirring within.
He slept in and woke refreshed. After having something to eat, he returned to the spot, where they had met on the previous day, eager to find out what Soul wanted to share with him.