So Milo let’s return to dependence as that is what what you are dealing with. When you are dependent it can have the effect of pushing your partner away from you. Your dependence and neediness can make your partner feel secure so they want a a bit more independence. However they may also feel pressured to behave in a certain way because of your demands, which makes them want to be more independent.
Now in your case, Milo you were in the early stages of dependence, so Daisy probably unconsciously felt your neediness. She would have felt and noticed that you weren’t as loving and giving as before she mentioned her journey to you.
What can also happen in relationships is that if someone feels dependence and neediness, they shut down and close themselves off from their feelings because they don’t want to feel the pain and hurt anymore. It is being independent by the avoidance of painful feelings. This independence and avoidance can be taken into your future relationships.
The problem with shutting down the painful feelings and avoiding intimacy is that you also close yourself off from the pleasant feelings as well. So by protecting yourself you can’t feel joy in your relationships.
The more sensitive you are, with insecurities, the more likely you are to feel dependent in a relationship, but if you then start avoiding your emotions, the likelihood is that because you feel empty inside you will still want or crave intimacy, which causes you conflict and pain.